Do you believe in astrological signs? My son is a Virgo and I’ve read up about his personality type…should I be parenting him in any special way because he’s a Virgo? Or is it all a bunch of crap? Help!
Astrologically Confused in NY
Oh Astrologically Confused! Your question warms the cockles of my already warm and rather weepy heart!
Do I believe in astrological signs? I am obsessed with astrological signs! I have a ram tattoo on my wrist for my sign (aries) and a fish tattoo on my forearm for my son’s sign (pisces). My husband is a Virgo and his Virgo tendencies drive me bonkers, so I am intimately familiar with your future.
Virgos, the Virgin, are most frequently analytic, observant, helpful, reliable, and precise. They can also, at times, be rigid, cold, fussy and skeptical. Kamel, for example, loves order – he has a deep relationship with his excel spreadsheets. He also enjoys comfort and isn’t as good with transitions as I am. It takes him longer to adjust. He is also fabulous at budgets and working out problems, so your son has some major life strengths pre-programmed into him (with some possible neurosis as well, ha, but don’t we all?).
Now, in regards to parenting… do I parent towards my son’s pisces-ness? (Pisces are often imaginative, accepting, adaptable, wanting to be everyone’s friend, but also sensitive, indecisive, escapist, and at times lazy.) Should you parent towards your son’s virgo-ness? Is there ever a cut and dry answer to any parenting-related question ever? Yes and no. Maybe?
Here is what I do: I keep in mind who Gabe is now and who he could be later. Do I want him to be escapist and over sensitive? No! Is he doomed to have those traits? No, but I will keep them in mind. Maybe astrology is just a teensy bit of inside info into what our babies lean towards personality-wise, what they could be, where their potential lies. Perhaps it is totally meaningless… but I’ll take any insight I can at this point into how to be the best parent for Gabe that I can.
So maybe your son will have a harder time with transitions than a Gemini would have, maybe he will crave specific rules and order over vagueness, and maybe in this way you won’t be surprised by these things and can think on how you’d like to approach them when/if they pop up. What will you foster? What will you attempt to discourage? But I bet these are things you are already thinking about because you are a good mom!
And just remember! The best future partners for a Virgo are Pisces, Capricorn, and Taurus! The worst are Aries, Libra, and Aquarius – but Kamel and I are doing pretty good, so what do the stars know anyway? (They’ve just been around for billions of years is all.)
Alright readers, what do you think? Do you believe in astrology? Do you fit a specific sign? To you straddle the line between 2? Were you raised knowing your astrological traits or did you find out about them later?
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