Episode 13: Secret Shames, Part 1

We are a day late on the podcast – again. I figure late twice out of twelve is pretty good!

This week I am divulging some of my secret shames. The stuff I do that no one else knows I do. We all have them…. right? Otherwise this podcast is going to get pretty awkward real quick.

This is also another opportunity to participate in the podcast! What are your secret shames? To contribute your confessions, I mean stories/confessions just call our voicemail box: 415 275 0551

You can call and be anonymous, or not, you can tell me a long story, or just a short 1 word explanation of what your secret shames are. Don’t be afraid! If there was ever a place to overshare without judgement – this would be the place. Let us cringe with you, laugh along with me and everyone else.

Call the voicemail box by Wednesday, March 30 at noon Pacific time to be included! 

Episode 12: Is That What You’re Wearing?

To be totally honest, I am usually super, super nervous to start a podcast. I have recording stage fright every single time. I really have to psyche myself up, and Kamel can attest that sometimes I will cancel a recording session because I just can’t wrap my brain around it.

But this time! This time I was so excited to sit down with the mic and Kamel and get down to chatty relationship business! This episode is all about what happens when your partner looks schleppy. When is it ok to address that? How do you go about it? I know that in my own relationship, I have spent a lot of energy coaxing Kamel out of his deep dark clothing hole of free tshirts and all black and oversized. It was a process and at times it was actually really stressful. But now he owns a suit! And actually enjoys how he looks and the variety of clothes in his closet. How do you navigate the, “Is that what you’re wearing?”

Episode 11: The Best Birthdays

While prepping for this episode I had forgotten that for a lot of years I didn’t like my birthday. It’s awkward, you’re the only one getting presents, the expectations are really high, disappointment is inevitable to some degree, etc etc.

But sometimes, on those rare years, someone hooks you up and knocks it out of the park. Even though we have all had the shitty birthday years, I am so grateful for everyone who called in and shared their BEST birthday stories with me (and now you!). It has been the icing on a very hectic week over on our end, and I hope it makes sailing into the weekend that much sweeter.

Episode 10: Cheating Revisited

After one of our earliest podcast episodes (Episode 3: Cheaters), I got a lot of emails and messages on twitter and facebook about people’s experiences with cheating. It definitely struck a chord with many of you. Cheating and lying and all forms of infidelity is morbidly fascinating, heart breaking, and creates that icky sick feeling in my stomach all at the same time.

Today we are so, so lucky to have a guest on that discusses her relatively recent experience with emotional cheating. Can a marriage survive infidelity? What is emotional cheating and how does it manifest? What are your own hard lines for your marriage? And the ultimate marriage question: What would you do if actually faced with those hard lines?

Episode 9: Fear

Gabe thinks that people with large noses are scary. Not just large noses, but like… hook noses. Like this: Scary Nose

Gabe is super super afraid of that guy and will specifically say, “Noo!! He has a big nose! He is TOO scary!”

Also the old grandpa vampire guy here:

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I’m not one to argue. I have my own fears. Maybe more grown up, sure, but with just as much fear fervor.

This podcast is not exactly light hearted, but it is heartfelt! Do you have fears/anxieties? I know last week some people shared their most common, every day, nagging fears. Now, it’s my turn. Yikes.

Episode 8: BRB

Remember those myspace surveys? They always had a question about your biggest fear. Mine used to be failure, but now I don’t even really think about failing because I have so many other fears pushing that one aside. Yay!

What is your biggest fear? Discuss in comments for next week’s episode!

Episode 7: Relationship Disputes

This is our 7th podcast! That was a milestone I had in my mind to reach and here we are! Hooray!

This episode is all about common issues that arise in marriage. Kamel and I attempt to discuss how we go about navigating the stuff many of you said you can’t agree on (via a facebook discussion) and how we came to being mostly ok with the majority of these relationship speed bumps.

This first series discusses:

  • How to handle one partner being a homebody while the other craving adventure! travel! and not being trapped on the couch.
  • How to approach varying parenting styles, especially if one partner is teaching your kid dangerous and/or very inconvenient things.
  • The struggle of different bed times, but wanting to go to bed with your partner.
  • And! We talk about how we carve out time and space for each other to have our own hobbies and activities not with the other person.

This is the first in a series of discussions about the small daily things (that sometimes become way way bigger) that make us all unique individuals and also make it sometimes harder to share your unique special snowflake life with another.

I would love for any and all readers and listeners to weigh in on these topics! Are they issues in your house? How do you address them? And if you have other common aggravations, what are they? Guaranteed we have felt them too.

Diversity in Children’s Books

A few weeks ago I was guest appearing on Otterly Rad, a parenting podcast. The topic was about diversity in children’s books. What do our children’s book libraries look like? What has our experience been trying to create diversity for our kids? And then, how do we create more diversity in kid lit in our communities? DID YOU KNOW that you can just…. make suggestions to libraries? And they will probably, most likely, actually hear you and follow through? MIND BLOWN.

I was also really inspired by Hayley’s book break down. Taking a look at the media we are consuming and “feeding” to our kids is always a good thing.

You can listen to the entire episode here. 

To accompany this conversation I wanted to post some of Gabe’s favorite books that are bilingual and/or highlight latino/latina culture.

The first book I have read over and over again is Cuckoo/CuCu by Lois Ehlert.

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How crazy beautiful is this book? I love that it is both in english and spanish. I love that it is a traditional story and I love the art. I think I read this book on repeat for at least 3 weeks straight until I … hid it under the bed just to take a break. Ha!

Second book on my list is Nino Wrestles the World by Yuyi Morales.

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This book is so fun and ridiculous and Gabe loves loves loves it. I also got this book at an amazing independent book store in Minneapolis! (Margaret! Remind me of the name in comments!)

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This story mixes cultural myths/pretend play/spanish and I love it. Reading it is goofy. Lots of sound effects and ridiculousness.

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This book is just FUN and shouldn’t reading with your kids be super extra special sound effect, play time, FUN? I think yes.

The third book on my favorites list is Green is a Chile Pepper by Roseanne Greenfield Thong.

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Another book I got in Minnesota because I asked the independent book sellers about their spanish book section. Talking to people is key. If you just go to Barnes and Noble, you’ll only get a bunch of classic books in spanish, but nothing with real diversity.

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My only critique of this book is there isn’t more spanish. So when I’m reading it I do all the spanish I can and for sure I say all of the colors in spanish every time. Gabe, thankfully, doesn’t at all know the difference.

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And how crazy are these illustrations?? So crazy! So beautiful! So perfect!

And finally! For littles, this book is my favorite. De quien es esta cola? is super cute and when gabe was 1-2 he loved this book. I made up a little song for it and he would just love it when he got to flip the page back and when I asked him to find the animals in spanish. It’s great.

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So what are you reading your kids? What does your kid-book diversity look like? Check out Otterly Rad and join the conversation! 

Episode 6: Parenting – Surprise!

In this episode of the podcast I break down my top parenting shockers.

This is a series that will pop up occasionally. Just some parenting chitter chatter from time to time.

If you have kids, feel free to share the things that surprised you the most. If you don’t have kids and want kids, what kinds of things are you expecting?

Episode 5: Shacking Up

Episode 5 is about the difference between living together and being married. We also have our first guest! Margaret! Who has been living with her boyfriend turned manfriend for a long time now.

Questions for the audience:

  1. Do you also feel like there is some kind of age threshold for when it’s way less financially/emotionally risky to move in with someone?
  2. Have you ever lived with someone and then had it not work out? Who moved? What was that like?
  3. For those who are married – what’s different about married life vs living together life? Is there a difference for you?