Episode 16: The End of Season 1

This episode has been delayed for SO many reasons. The kids being sick, the perfect storm of birthday, traveling, and an INSANE two weeks of working an immense amount of hours. It left my little podcast last on my priority list.

But here we are. A whole season complete. Sixteen weeks of podcasting, sixteen different episodes. Thank you so much for going on this little experiment journey with me. There were some things that I super loved and some things I cringe at. Have I ever listened to a full episode after it’s been recorded? No. Will I ever? Probably not. My expectations for myself are too high and I already know I don’t meet them. But I’m getting there! I’m trying!

Season 2 will be back June 8th! That’s a hard and fast date, so get your podcast listening devices primed and ready. Until then, we will be recording new material, so please don’t stop sending us your relationship disputes, your marriage and life conundrums, or your straight up goofy confessions.

As always get at me by email: birlpodcast@gmail.com

… or by the show’s voicemail: 415 275 0551

Oh! And if the podcast drought is making you twitch, I have a second – parenting only – podcast that I am still recording every other Tuesday with my ladies Kelly and Hayley. You can catch the World’s Okayest Moms podcast on iTunes, SoundCloud, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Episode 15: Secret Shames Part 2

It’s the second to last episode of the season! And I have to say this is probably my second favorite of all time. I laughed so hard while listening to everyone’s calls! Your secret shames make you all amazing, hilarious, dorky, spectacular people! And it made my week to listen to these.

I hope everyone else feels empowered to be more vulnerable and feels more connected with the weirdos around us. Because, we’re all weirdos, one and all.

Episode 14: The Hunt

House hunting is the worst. Or, if you’re Kamel it is SO FUN and SO EASY. On this week’s episode we talk about our different approaches to this momentous event. Oh you know, it’s just the biggest purchase of our lives, in a market that shits on buyers. And in all of that I have to compromise with my partner. Insert gagging noise here. Oh marriage, how you challenge me.

Episode 13: Secret Shames, Part 1

We are a day late on the podcast – again. I figure late twice out of twelve is pretty good!

This week I am divulging some of my secret shames. The stuff I do that no one else knows I do. We all have them…. right? Otherwise this podcast is going to get pretty awkward real quick.

This is also another opportunity to participate in the podcast! What are your secret shames? To contribute your confessions, I mean stories/confessions just call our voicemail box: 415 275 0551

You can call and be anonymous, or not, you can tell me a long story, or just a short 1 word explanation of what your secret shames are. Don’t be afraid! If there was ever a place to overshare without judgement – this would be the place. Let us cringe with you, laugh along with me and everyone else.

Call the voicemail box by Wednesday, March 30 at noon Pacific time to be included! 

Episode 12: Is That What You’re Wearing?

To be totally honest, I am usually super, super nervous to start a podcast. I have recording stage fright every single time. I really have to psyche myself up, and Kamel can attest that sometimes I will cancel a recording session because I just can’t wrap my brain around it.

But this time! This time I was so excited to sit down with the mic and Kamel and get down to chatty relationship business! This episode is all about what happens when your partner looks schleppy. When is it ok to address that? How do you go about it? I know that in my own relationship, I have spent a lot of energy coaxing Kamel out of his deep dark clothing hole of free tshirts and all black and oversized. It was a process and at times it was actually really stressful. But now he owns a suit! And actually enjoys how he looks and the variety of clothes in his closet. How do you navigate the, “Is that what you’re wearing?”

Episode 11: The Best Birthdays

While prepping for this episode I had forgotten that for a lot of years I didn’t like my birthday. It’s awkward, you’re the only one getting presents, the expectations are really high, disappointment is inevitable to some degree, etc etc.

But sometimes, on those rare years, someone hooks you up and knocks it out of the park. Even though we have all had the shitty birthday years, I am so grateful for everyone who called in and shared their BEST birthday stories with me (and now you!). It has been the icing on a very hectic week over on our end, and I hope it makes sailing into the weekend that much sweeter.

Episode 10: Cheating Revisited

After one of our earliest podcast episodes (Episode 3: Cheaters), I got a lot of emails and messages on twitter and facebook about people’s experiences with cheating. It definitely struck a chord with many of you. Cheating and lying and all forms of infidelity is morbidly fascinating, heart breaking, and creates that icky sick feeling in my stomach all at the same time.

Today we are so, so lucky to have a guest on that discusses her relatively recent experience with emotional cheating. Can a marriage survive infidelity? What is emotional cheating and how does it manifest? What are your own hard lines for your marriage? And the ultimate marriage question: What would you do if actually faced with those hard lines?

Episode 9: Fear

Gabe thinks that people with large noses are scary. Not just large noses, but like… hook noses. Like this: Scary Nose

Gabe is super super afraid of that guy and will specifically say, “Noo!! He has a big nose! He is TOO scary!”

Also the old grandpa vampire guy here:


I’m not one to argue. I have my own fears. Maybe more grown up, sure, but with just as much fear fervor.

This podcast is not exactly light hearted, but it is heartfelt! Do you have fears/anxieties? I know last week some people shared their most common, every day, nagging fears. Now, it’s my turn. Yikes.

Episode 8: BRB

Remember those myspace surveys? They always had a question about your biggest fear. Mine used to be failure, but now I don’t even really think about failing because I have so many other fears pushing that one aside. Yay!

What is your biggest fear? Discuss in comments for next week’s episode!

Episode 7: Relationship Disputes

This is our 7th podcast! That was a milestone I had in my mind to reach and here we are! Hooray!

This episode is all about common issues that arise in marriage. Kamel and I attempt to discuss how we go about navigating the stuff many of you said you can’t agree on (via a facebook discussion) and how we came to being mostly ok with the majority of these relationship speed bumps.

This first series discusses:

  • How to handle one partner being a homebody while the other craving adventure! travel! and not being trapped on the couch.
  • How to approach varying parenting styles, especially if one partner is teaching your kid dangerous and/or very inconvenient things.
  • The struggle of different bed times, but wanting to go to bed with your partner.
  • And! We talk about how we carve out time and space for each other to have our own hobbies and activities not with the other person.

This is the first in a series of discussions about the small daily things (that sometimes become way way bigger) that make us all unique individuals and also make it sometimes harder to share your unique special snowflake life with another.

I would love for any and all readers and listeners to weigh in on these topics! Are they issues in your house? How do you address them? And if you have other common aggravations, what are they? Guaranteed we have felt them too.