Last Friday a video was posted on someone’s status a Ted Talk about how 30 is not the new 20 and I thought… ok… this could either be really interesting or it could make me feel even more panicked about turning 30. Which has sort of decreased since I wrote that. I’m coming to terms, shall we say.
Anyway, you should watch the video because it talks about Identity Capital and I thought it was fascinating. I’ve seen, through Gabe, how in so many ways we are born with a giant junk of who we are already pre programmed. He is a ball of his own personality already and he is only 1 and a half. But then there is this whole other section where we get to grow and evolve. We get to learn and change. We should learn and change, and our 20s is when that is supposed to happen.
You’re supposed to take risks and search for the things you have decided are important for you, change your mind and search for other things. You’re supposed to be setting yourself up, building your identity resume. Who are you? What do you want to be?
So I started to think about my 20s as 10 years of prep work instead of the time to achieve. It wasn’t the time for me to publish a book, it wasn’t the time for me to hit middle management, it’s the time to get all the pre-recs out of the way. Clearly, everyone’s pre-recs are different and this is not to say that everyone’s 20s should or even could look like mine. This is not a list that should be checked off in the name of a successful life, it is just my identity capital, personalized for me.
I finished my education.
I lived in a few places.
I pieced together that resume that includes 3-5 years of X that will hopefully propel me into the next level at some point.
I took risks that could never happen when more financial stability would be a necessity. I took risks that were good and that were bad.
I made mistakes but in a good way, in the way where the difference between what you have and what you want becomes so very clear. I made mistakes in a bad way, where I missed the chance for something I actually did want and had to adjust my path in order to let that go.
I dated with the intent of finding the person I wanted to be with forever.
I found him and kept him.
I had my first baby.
I also fought some demons and won.
All of this is telling me the next decade is going to be pretty great. I won’t have to do any of those things because I already did them. Check, check, check. Now I get to do some other stuff. Finish writing a book, do more career-y things, take different risks.
But, I want to know. What has your identity capital been? What as the last decade done for you? What pre-recs have you completed? Check, Check,and Check.
**By the way, this is my 1,000th post. I’ve been too busy to pay attention and just now realized it. So, hooray! 1000! That is a lot. Thank you for reading and commenting and being fantastic.***