Talking Goals

2013. It was pretty uneventful in our house…. It came in the night and here it is. Last year at this time I had big plans for 2012. Big! I was going to do things that scared me, I was going to work on jumping higher, risking greater, and living enthusiastically. I think I’ll put a stamp on 2012 as a big big success in that category. It also had some challenges, but what is life without a little unexpected crap? It keeps things exciting. I’m learning to embrace the hard parts and do my best to laugh at them.

Mostly, I want to hear about what your goals are for the year. The things that other people plan on trying, accomplishing, tackling, etc are so inspiring! You all are pretty amazing and are always doing stuff I would never think to try.

While I wait for your awesomeness (Like miss Callie who is going to go camping in Kentucky and then scope out some distilleries…. cuz YEAH!) I’ll share with you the two goals I have for the year. And yes, just two… last year I was tackling the world, this year we have a lot of life transitions happening (baby, yes, but other things too… hopefully).

My first major goal for 2013 is to work on doing at least 1 thing just for me. This year has had a lot of time and money spent on other people – which I love! Two weddings of two of my very best friends and all of the events that come with them, trips to Mexico City for family, unexpected costs here and there, and then of course the pregnancy. And I know that having a child is going to change priorities a bit, but I want to make sure I still take a moment to say yes to me sometimes, even if that means saying no to other people. So my goal is just 1 thing in 2013.

My second goal is to feel good about where my body is by next Christmas. I miss spending time working out and feeling sore and pushing myself to do one more set. I miss it so much. And I miss feeling strong and in shape vs large, slow, and out of breath. I know that bouncing back after giving birth takes some time, I know that there are weeks of healing following labor/delivery, I know that some things won’t be exactly the same. And I’m (mostly) cool with that… I just want to know that I’m on the right track by next Christmas. Not everyone is concerned about that stuff post baby as much as me… but it’s part of still being me while also being mom and wife and writer and all of the other things.

So there it is! My two big goals for this year! Now it is your turn. What are you planning on crossing off your list? Have you thought about one or two things you’re looking to finish or accomplish or push yourself to try? Teach me your ways oh wise and adventurous ones! And yay reboots and fresh starts!

30 thoughts on “Talking Goals”

  1. Well, as you know our main big goal is for this baby to finally arrive. I am not naive (anymore) as to even expect to have any control on that subject but we are doing every bit we can and staying happy and living in the moment in the meantime.
    We also want to travel, as usual 🙂 that is one thing that will always be on our lists.
    I want to take and pass my official Dutch exam and my European drivers license (two things that I should have done ages ago and that I have been procrastinating for about as long).
    We are also taking dancing (salsa) lessons together with a couple other friends.
    And maybe even start a business or a master depending on the uncontrollable factors.

    1. I am hoping and praying that 2013 is the year of the baby for you!!! And I know it’s not in our control but I am really rooting for all things to work out and in the mean time for you to have lots of adventures. Sending all my love your way!

      1. Thanks a lot, it means the world. And hope, love, praying and rooting all help, I am convinced of that.
        I wish you the best 2013 ever, I think your goals are great (and hard too). As someone who also says yes to everyone all the time, constant, saying no , making space for yourself is always a challenge.

  2. “My second goal is to feel good about where my body is by next Christmas.”

    I like that. To me it reads as being a both physical and mental goal. Getting back to where you were, or being ok with not. Sounds healthy.

    I think I’m going to steal it, because while being physically healthy/fit is important, feeling good about yourself is even moreso.

    Last year I resolved to get control of my life and know my worth … and for the most part I did it. So this year will be to build on that. But it’s always nice to have specific goals that help that along. =)

  3. 2012 was a year of big changes, some of them good (new job) but one monumentally bad one (relationship end). The true gift of 2012 was knowing my own strength while also recognizing the community of friends and family around me that make that possible.

    I’ve been looking forward to the fresh start of 2013 for months and now it’s finally here and I’m so happy. 2013 is the year I will go to Europe for the first time. It will be my first experience with being a happily single adult. It will be the year I stand by two of my closest friends as they have their first child (and love and support many other friends in my life as they embark on parenthood). It will also be the year I watch my parents dip their toes into retirement and begin the transition to post-full time working life. And those are just the things I know about!

    My goal for the year is to continue to work toward my best self (thanks Oprah). To me that means, exercising regularly in ways that feel good to my body, cooking fun and interesting food and sharing it with people, being emotionally and physically present to nurture the relationships that are important to me. And hey, maybe meet a nice guy along the way but he better be prrrrrrrrretty awesome to get in on these good times.

    Happy new year, Lauren. xo

    1. Oooo those are some awesome goals! I especially like the emotionally and physically present to nurture the relationships that are important. That takes awareness and thoughtfulness. YAY!

  4. I want 2013 to be the year of Being Selfish. Not in a way that has me discounting others’ feelings and needs, and not in a dismissive way. But 2012 was all about various family units–starting our new little married family, joining our extended families, dealing with the needs of those extended families. I want 2013 to be about My Projects, My Goals, and My Time. I want to focus on the things that are important to me as an individual, and learn not to feel guilty when that focus means I need to say “no” to other things.

    I also want to be better about taking risks and going out of my comfort zone. I want to try new things and go on new adventures. I have some things lined up, so I’m hoping this goal is off to a good start…

    1. YES!!!! Some years are for stretching ourselves for the people in our lives, and some years are for buckling down and focusing on our own shiz. Yes Yes Yes Yes.

      Also: I want to know what things you have lined up!! Are you taking a pole dancing work out class? HOT AIR BALLOONING?? Race car driving? Learning to skateboard? TELL ME!!! 🙂

      1. Ahahah, I love that pole-dancing workout was your first guess 😉

        So far I’m thinking martial arts class (which both terrifies and intrigues me!) aaaand maybe getting my first-ever tattoo!

  5. Well, we already discussed this briefly the other day, but I think 2012 was truly the year of ME. New job, crossing things of my list (Oh the travels!), building up my spiritual walk. All great things. But this year will be the year of OTHERS. I will continue to take care of me (careful budgeting, a trip with my best girlfriends, picking up some new work). But I also want to focus on giving back, volunteering, finding people to positively influence, and building my relationships.

    It’s nice to finally be in a place where I feel like I have the ME part down and manageable, and I can start to spread that love and joy and confidence around!

  6. Most of 2012 I compared my life and success (regarding job, finances, relationships, car, etc) to other people. Seeing other people my age and younger getting married to their “soul mate”, while after 7 years we’re no where closer to marriage. Seeing other people moving up in their jobs while I struggled with being laid off and feeling like a fat failure. Even as simple as other people having a newer car and me with my junker, 16-yr old Monte Carlo. A lot of time I just felt like my life was moving backwards instead of forward.

    In 2013 I want to learn how be comfortable with where I am and what I have. Reminding myself that I am different from everyone else. My situation, while maybe similar at times, will never be the same as anyone else. So trying to compare my life, and what I deem “successful” to others, is futile. I have my own journey to take. And that’s okay. In fact, its amazing.

    The other goal I have is to be less indecisive. I need to work on making my own decisions and not worry so much if I am going to hurt someone’s feelings. Especially in situations that also have a direct effect on me. It’s time for me to look out for myself and make sure my needs are met just as much as those around me.

    1. Holy shit. It is really really REALLY hard not to compare. I definitely have this issue esp in the blog world. Everyone seems so on top of everything, so successful, so awesome, so well dressed, so pretty, all living in amazingly decorated homes. But …. all of that stuff that people show? I don’t believe half of it. Life is complicated and hard and everyone deals with shit. I often have a hard time remembering that though. Good luck with this!!!

  7. I am really struggling with 2013.
    As 2012 came to an end, I had more than 1 tearful meltdown recounting how incredible it had been to me. In 2012 I got myself to Europe, succeeded in a hard industry, discovered a side of myself I hadn’t expected to be there, pushed myself, moved to Chicago with my best friend, spent my 1st Thanksgiving with Ry just the 2 of us, and got engaged. Topping that seems impossible, even with a wedding.

    My 1 goal for 2013, take everything in stride & enjoy the now. There are a lot of changes coming my way, and sometimes I get so easily overwhelmed with the thought of what lies ahead that I forget to enjoy what is around me right now.

    1. This reminds me of when Charlotte on Sex and the city was all “my life is TOO GOOD and I’m just waiting for something horrible to happen!” Which is not a happy way to be. The stress alone would do me in. Just remember: The year is just a man-made time measure-er. Having a good one doesn’t mean the valve gets shut off and now everything is set back to the beginning. It’s only a reboot if you WANT it to be. Let the good times keep on a-rollin’! There is no reason they can’t. 🙂

  8. Ha well who knows if the KY trip will happen this year (it depends on things) but it’s an idea I’ve liked for a few years, so if the stars align properly, I’m absolutely ready to jump on it! I wouldn’t be in tears if it ended up being next year (like if other travel opportunities appeared with a closing window that I decided to take advantage of instead).

  9. We had a big 2012 too (obviously), and 2013 looks hard.
    So, my main goal (I have six to work on, most of which should only take a couple of months) is to Keep Active. Yep – I want to be out walking, going to the gym (even if just to sit on a stationery bike for 20 minutes), swimming etc, as much as possible all year.
    Its not just for my figure (although that will be nice), but a LOT for my mental health. Plus, I want to keep keeping up with Mark! We did a short day-walk between christmas and new years, and the first chunk of it was all up hill. I had to stop and catch my breath every few minutes. Cant wait to get past that! 🙂

  10. Here are my goals for 2013:

    1. Get back in shape! Same as I was in early 2012 really.

    2. Successfully carry out our baby plan! All PTO, Leave and Daycare handled without any issues or lack of funds throughout the entire year. This would be nice. =)

    3. Get 3 new apps on iOS. Plus, update my existing 3 to support iPhone 5 and iPad mini.

    4. Remove debt and replace it with savings. Almost there…

    5. Keep the kitchen sink clean throughout the year! No matter what, I will always make time for cleaning dishes.

    Bam!

    1. 5. Keep the kitchen sink clean throughout the year! No matter what, I will always make time for cleaning dishes.

      Oh man. I should add that to mine. That and putting away laundry (which I leave in baskets FOR WEEKS…after my husband has so sweetly washed and folded it. PULL IT TOGETHER, LAURA!)

  11. Congratulations!!! (I met you at an APW book club in Roger’s Park, so I’m excited to hear that the move is working out for you! I definitely relate to having a year that’s hard to say goodbye to. Here’s hoping 2013 brings you more than you expect and lots and lots of joy.

  12. Like Amanda, my biggest goal for 2013 is to have a healthy baby. Other than that, I’d like to travel. Mostly I just want to be happy because 2012 was not a happy year, so I guess my real goal is to be kind to myself no matter what happens.

  13. Lets see my goals are pretty simple…

    1) Survive my job- come up with ways to do it better so i can minimize errors and last minute fires as best as i can.

    2) Healthy living- watch what i eat/drink, go to the gym, be more active

    3) Travel more..last year I didnt travel any further than Santa Barbara and that was for work.

  14. My big hope for 2013 is a successful pregnancy, but control of that goal is not so forthcoming.

    Big picture, and more in my control, I’d like to get more comfortable with the changes in my life and living situation that 2012 brought me because while some where awesome (getting married) some were not (moving back in with my mom, with a husband). I do ok most of the time about being ok with where things are but I have days of tons of angst about all the stupid that 2012 threw my way, and I’d like to get better at just accepting and moving forward.

  15. Is it too late to leave a comment?

    I’m not making any goals or resolutions this year, because I’d like the year to surprise me. I feel like the last two years haven’t been awesome… 2011 was sort of like drowning and 2012 was sort of like treading water… so I guess for 2013 I just want to be able to swim around and have fun. (Metaphorically speaking… I don’t literally plan to swim a lot!)

    And of course the usuals still apply! I want to write and read a bunch, spend a lot of time with people I love, cook new things, travel as much as my tiny budget/vacation time allows, put some money into savings, etc.

  16. 2013 Breakdown, here goes:

    1. Take better care of myself mentally. 2012 was filled with vast physical improvements and achievements that I never thought possible (started lifting weights, did indoor rock climbing for the first time, and completed a Warrior Dash and Rugged Maniac race!!). This year I want to catch up my mental health while continuing to take care of my body. It’s time to face the issues and conquer them!

    2. Complete this January Whole 30 without cheating. I allowed myself to indulge over the holidays, and it was fantastic, but now I’m getting my body back on track to feeling great by treating it right.

    3. Take care of my remaining dental work. Get that cavity filled and that wisdom tooth extracted. Then schedule regular cleanings. Yea dentist!

    4. Spend more time with my local family. I recently moved back to the city they all live in, so more spontaneous visits can happen. I’m going to shoot to see them once a month. My brother, SIL and the baby, twice a month.

    5. Spend more time being present in my relationship with my husband. To much down time gets spent in front of computers, so this year I want to be more engaged with him. This will be a work in process.

    6. Donate to the local animal control shelter at least once a month. They are no kill and do great work trying to find these dogs happy homes. They are in constant need of food, so a big 50lb bag once a month will help. (And I’m going to work on not crying when I leave there too, my heart is to soft when it comes up to homeless puppies).

    I think that’s a good start.

  17. Goals!! I love this 🙂 I’ve been super inspired reading everyone’s unique goals and seeing where everyone is on their journey.

    Mine are as follows:

    1. family – be nicer to my mom and get to know extended family members on a one to one basis. not to say that I am mean, but in general enjoy my mama more and have adult-life-focused relationships with some neat-o aunts and extended family members.

    2. faith stuff – expand expand expand! that is my motto – as opposed to ‘fine-tune’ or ‘figure out’ or ‘define’ – which is a really important metaphor/distinction for me.

    3. my home – I am doing a huge huge huge HUGE reboot of my living space this winter/spring. It centers around a new couch – and has blossomed from there. It is all I can do to not spend ALL my free time searching and dreaming and buying and pinning – so this goal is also finished off with a reminder to myself that stuff is just stuff and I want to make my living space usable, peaceful, and purposeful (but also pretty and fun!)

    4. go back to school (in any way) – which is a project I am talking through with the help of my very wise grandfather.

    Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

    -C

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