I asked Kamel what I should write about today and his answer: “The birds and the bees!” Thanks for nothing, kiddo. So then I wrote the title and he said “MORE wedding stuff?” And I said “WHAT ELSE DO WE DO?! We spent all evening writing thank you notes last night… and the day before that we squeed over registry items. Other than that, we work and sleep. WHAT OTHER STORIES DO I HAVE!?” And he acquiesced.
Registry. Here’s the thing. I am blown away by everyone’s generosity. Especially my wonderful internet ladies who aren’t even invited to the wedding!! (Though every day I think of 5 more people I wish I could have there. Every single day. And my impulse is to invite every person I know, because come one! come all! and share in the joy! But, budgets don’t allow for that type of thinking.) Generosity and gratitude. That’s the theme of this summer.
These are our first ever grown up wine glasses, bought for us by the lovely Sarah_Fae. (twitter handle love, though her account is private, I’m sure if you request to follow she’ll oblige.) We cleared out an entire row of crap from our kitchen cabinets just to make room for these beauties. We washed them (Kamel washed them) before we placed them in their new home and then we (literally) jumped up and down in our kitchen singing “WE HAVE NEW WINE GLASSES!!!” before opening up a bottle of wine and toasting to “Having nice things.” So, to Sarah – THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. You just classed up this joint to the MAX. (And thank you Crate and Barrel for making beautiful, sturdy wine glasses for all occasions.)
And then a few days ago another mystery packaged arrived containing a cheese plane and a slate cheese board (you know, for all of our cheesy needs and entertaining ways).
And who could have sent this to us? None other than Kristin from Not Intent On Arriving. (I love reading about her adventures, she makes it all seem SO EASY!) This gift had me choked up, because WHAT is going on? People who I’ve never met in real life (though Sarah is coming NEXT weekend!) are sending me lovely gifts with adorably thoughtful cards. And this is not a plea for more, this is not a dig at readers who don’t buy me wedding gifts. But, instead, it is a huge, huge thank you. Thank you to these ladies (who, so far, have been the only wedding gift givers from our registry besides my grandma) and thank you to the internet, every single one of you, who comment and share your stories, and dig deep and discuss things that make you uncomfortable, just to share in the community here.
A year ago, today, Kamel proposed to me. And this year has been hard and wonderful, and full of ridiculous surprises, career changes, moves, sadness, joy, everything. And you all have been there, reading along and going on the journey (your own, or just as a tag along on mine) too. Some of you started at the very beginning, and a lot of you have joined in the last 6 months or so. And I am so, so grateful to you for sticking around, sharing your kindness, and making the world that much happier for me. I really want this space to be joyful and thoughtful, and when people leave I want them to be tapping their foot a little peppier, or giggling to themselves, or thinking about a new perspective they never considered before. But I also wanted to tell you that you do that for me, every day.
So. Gratitude. I have it, and it’s all because of you.