Rules to Blog By: Passion

Oh man, so this story starts out the weekend before Alt when I had drinks coffee with Mariela. See, she forgot her purse, which had her ID and we ended up drinking tea at the coffee shop kitty corner from the bar. I couldn’t have asked for a better mess of events because it lead to better discussions and less of a hungover the day after. She is one of those rare people who actually went back to the beginning of this blog and read the entire history up until now… or at least close to it. She’s read angst, and goofyness, and embarrassment, and stupid blog stuff I tried and then abandoned 1/2 way through. And that’s why I was shocked when she mentioned how I hadn’t been writing.

Hadn’t been writing? But… but I had been working so hard to generate content! I had been scouring my brain and trying to balance some semblance of a private life with my tendency to over share. There is no way that anyone could think I wasn’t writing. But then she said that she missed the old me, the me she could relate to, the me that was goofy and made mistakes, and told funny (disparaging) stories and that’s when I realized: dude, I totally miss that person too! But somehow I had wandered away from myself with all of the business of blogging talk and the thoughtfulness, the strategy that goes into my work on APW.

And then I spent the next few days packing and stressing over Alt and wondering if I still had it in me to blog the way I did, or had I moved on into a different realm. (I’m obviously telling this story a little backwards since you already know what happened during my brain go boom moment during the first panel of the conference.) And then! Alyssa, Meg, and I were out to dinner on that first night and Meg was asking me about my numbers, and I was kind of whining about how they’d dropped (maybe because I wasn’t interesting anymore? Hmm?) and she mentioned how she’d noticed my blog was lacking direction. And then! (this is the big and then) She asked me what made me the happiest to write about, what did I have the MOST fun doing on my blog. And I didn’t know what to say. I choked on myself and I started saying, “well what I get the most comments on is…” and she interrupted me and repeated her question. And I said, “telling stories. I LOVE telling stories. And I love talking about fashion in a very every-girl kind of way.”

Later that night I was reiterating all of this to Kamel when he said (and this is where he redeems himself for the pig comment), “Lauren… what you write about is directly under your title…’writer stumbles through life while laughing and trying on clothes.’ THAT’s who you are. So just write that. Do it.” Um… DUH! He’s a GENIUS!

So I carried that along with me every where I went. I knew that I was going to spend the majority of my focus on telling amazingly entertaining stories to you all. And then some of my focus on fashion – cuz duh, I love the pretty.

AND THEN! (here we go again) I had the pleasure of listening to the Swiss Miss during the last keynote discussion on the final day. And she had a list of Rules to Blog By. And number one one the list: Write What You’re Passionate About. Blogging 101 – Passion. And suddenly I felt energized (totally, gut-wrenchingly exhausted), validated, and motivated to continue on this journey, continue pushing myself to do what I’m really good at and what I really enjoy.

So that’s what you’re going to see more of and be part of. A lot more stories, a lot less fluff. I hope you’re ok with that. I hope I can make you laugh so hard your friends HAVE to ask what you’re looking at online, and hopefully in the very near future I can have more time to have more ridiculous adventures which will fill my head with even more goofy observations, leading to even more slightly awkward situations which I will invariable share here.

Have a good weekend,
Lauren

20 thoughts on “Rules to Blog By: Passion”

  1. You know something? At the meet-up, I thought you were hilarious. I hadn’t gone back and read your other blogs, so I don’t think I knew to expect this.

    I cannot wait to read more of YOU!

  2. Yes! If there’s one thing I can never ever get enough of, it’s hearing about other people’s awkward situations. As a newbie to your blog, I wholeheartedly concur with everything you just said. Clearly, I could not have started reading at a better time – you, my dear, are on fire. Amazingly entertaining stories? Fashion? THE PRETTY? Um, yes please!

    Also, yesterday’s post? HILARIOUS.

  3. well now I’m going to have to go read your way-back archives!

    thanks for sharing this. I’m still in a very directionless place for my blog, I don’t have a purpose for it really, I just felt like blabbing. I’m going to continue to blab sort of aimlessly until I figure it out – posts like this really help though. makes me stop and think, wait what do I have this blog for? what is it’s purpose? Kerry already has the best tagline that could ever fit on a blog like mine haha, and she is way more hilarious than I am (no shame, that’s the dang truth!). I think right now my fear of failure is inhibiting my desire to even create a focus and a purpose for it. If I don’t make up a mission statement I can’t possibly fail at it right? If I don’t call myself a writer nobody can tell me I’m not! At least that’s my best guess as to what’s going on in my subconscious. you inspire me to dig a little deeper into this!

    But anyway, you are a very entertaining writer so I’m looking forward to more stories! and every-girl fashion talk! πŸ™‚

  4. What a wonderful realization. I read a lot of your archives back when Meg first introduced you and I agree, you should just keep being your funny self because its a pleasure to read. I’m working on finding a focus for my blog, so I sympathize, but I’m not as funny as you : )

  5. It’s so true. It’s so easy to forget the simple things, and hard to remember why you started blogging in the first place. I always try to keep that in my brain so I don’t lose who I am. But it ain’t easy. I am glad you re-found your passion!

  6. I’ve noticed that this week has been filled with a lot more stories. I like it a lot. Please keep blogging what you are passionate about because it makes such good reading.

  7. Yay! Stories! My favorite! I’m putting in a request- please re-tell the rocking and humming story at some point… because to this day, we can’t talk about it without laughing so hard that I start crying, and I think that is a gift that should be shared πŸ™‚

  8. It seems like more readers you get the more pressure there is and your chances of indentity crisis double!
    A lot of sucessful bloggers talk about “reinventing the wheel” and having “something unique to offer” if you want to really be a player in this world but I think that what you’re aiming towards is PERFECT.
    The best bloggers are the ones who can pick their passion and run with it, and if yours is writing about giant pig boobs and sparkly tights then go for it! I’d rather read a blog with a real “voice” than something that feels like it’s grasping at straws to be the next big blog.
    I feel that same way about my passion. I’m making it my business but that doesn’t mean that I have to change my personal philisophy to be a success. If I keep taking great pictures and letting my personality show I will go so much further than if I tried to be a cookie cutter artist that used diffused glow on everything.

    Way to go Lauren!!!

    1. you have NO idea how many times at Alt someone said “reinvent the wheel”. Like… a bajilllion. Which first made me nervous because I feel like I’m writing about things that a lot of other people are writing about too. But then it just made me want to hide from the blogosphere and focus all my attention on writing WELL and not listening to all of the hoopla.

      And thank god you aren’t aiming for cookie cutter. That is boring as fuck.

  9. Your stories can’t ever be cookie-cutter because they are yours! That is the brilliance of writing for yourself and about what you love. The readers and numbers don’t matter if you are writing about your passion and for self-fulfillment. That in my humble opinion is the way to go. I love the stories.

  10. Okay, I am a day late but YES!
    I’m sooo glad you love telling stories because I love the way you tell them! I think this could be a biased opinion, because I’ve had the pleasure of learning that you are, in fact, even better in real life, but seriously you are a ridiculously great story teller. So embrace it and run with it!!
    And, I’m thinking a nice pat on the back to that Mariela, she is one wise woman, forgetting her ID on purpose in order to create a more meaningful setting for a deeper conversation! πŸ˜‰

  11. I’m going to take this one and store it in my little brain bank and remember it. forever.
    I was just chatting with an APW lady about something similar… she was saying on twitter… “I will not blog drunk. I will not blog drunk.” And I replied and said… “actually, if I blog when I’m a teensy bit tipsy, I tend to write better – perhaps because I’m more ‘me’ and less self conscious about what I’m saying…” Anyway – point being.. Yes. Be yourself and blog what you love! I love it!!!

    And I’m going to try to remember this and do the same. Even if it means blogging after a couple glasses of vino. πŸ™‚ haha

  12. I love your writing style, and the way you already do make me laugh. Looking forward to more of it!
    Now I just need to figure out what I’m passionate about writing about so I can find my blogging voice.

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