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Lauren Life List Vol. 4

The Life List is an ever growing, shrinking, changing thing. Like an Amoeba. Actually, I don’t really know if the latter has to do with the former whatsoever. But let’s just all say Amoeba out loud one time, altogether. Aaa-mmeeee-baaa. Ok I’m done.

Back to the point. Life List stuff! As I cross stuff of my list, make plans to cross stuff off my list, or dream about crossing stuff of my list (trip to Spain, anyone?), I decide to take some things off that are just not that important to me anymore, and add some more things on.

Here are five new things that I am adding:

1.) Take more fashion risks (whatever this means to me… I haven’t quite figured it out yet, but I’ll let you know when I do)
2.) Finally find boots that fit (You can see my failed attempt(s) here)
3.) Work to support other women in their personal and professional goals without jealousy (this is an idea stemmed from this post and Alyssa’s following comment)
4.) Go to a ticker-tape parade
5.) Work on a photo project of LA

I also want to know what YOU are doing. I read all the comments over at MightyGirl from all the people over there accomplishing fun things when she asks for feedback, but I don’t know those people. And I know you (or I COULD know you), so therefore you are more interesting.

Like Maris – Are you going to write down your goals in my comments so that I don’t keep bothering you about them (because we talk, and then i forget…)? Hmmm?

And Ali! – Where is your life list? You are already doing an amazing thing by running 1 race every month for a year, so I’m pretty sure the rest of your goals are going to be A-mazing.

Alyssa – Do you have a life list? I feel like I should know this about you. If you don’t, can you just indulge me with something fun or scary that you are planning for yourself sometime in the future?

Even my wonderful Aunt has shared some life list-ery with me. And I think she should put those things on under my life list tab too, for all the internet world to see and support her with. Because you really never know who is going to read it, and who is going to have that bit of knowledge that could make your life just THAT much easier.

32 Comments

  1. Hey Lauren! So I don’t actually know you, but… I started following your blog via apracticalwedding, and your life list actually motivated me to start my own! I just joined the working world full time again in September, and after a few monotonous 8-6 days I started to freak out about losing my “goals.” I’m a little afraid to put professional goals on there for fear of current co-workers seeing it, but I’m trying not to lose sight of what I want out of life! So far, mine includes:

    Travel to (in no particular order): Montreal, Canada; Patagonia, Argentina; Thailand; Vietnam; New Zealand; Costa Rica; Denmark/Sweden/Norway/Finland.
    Learn to knit.
    Learn to grow my own rose bushes.
    Plant a vegetable garden.
    Plant an herb garden.
    Join a CSA (community supported agriculture).
    Clerk for a federal or state judge.
    Try a criminal case.
    Get back into horseback riding lessons/competitions.
    Teach myself to enjoy morning runs.
    Read The Hobbit (my Dad’s favorite book).
    Interview my aunts and write a history of my Dad’s life.
    Develop a habit of vacationing to a ocean-side or lake-side retreat (rented or bought). Location will be largely contingent on where we live at the time, but ideas include San Juan Islands, some lake in the Sierra Nevadas, the Cascades, or Montana. Extra bonus for LIVING at one, but again, this may be difficult. Currently, Ohio is killing me on this goal, and who knows where we’ll be in two years for residency.
    Decide if I want to live in a cute city neighborhood with small yard but walkable to everything, or out in the country.
    Create my own holiday traditions.

    So, thank you for the motivation! I’ve enjoyed having a place to write down all my random “I wish someday…” ‘s. Plus, don’t they say that there’s a better chance you’ll do something if you write it down?

    • Hi Carmar! Just wanted to say that I love, love, love Montreal. It’s one of my favorite places. Ever. You will certainly enjoy it. I recommend going in the summer though. It gets bitterly cold in the winter.

    • I cannot WAIT until you start accomplishing stuff on your life list because holy moley! You’re out to make the world a better place one hand made gift and garden at a time! And get on with reading The Hobbit! And then tell me how it is – I’ve heard it’s amazing, but have a tendency to roll my eyes when it comes to Tolkien (I know, judgey judgey me). But for reals! keep me posted! :)

      • the Hobbit is awesome. My dad used to read it to my sister and I in the evenings, when we were kids, and he would do all these awesome voices for the characters.

  2. I do have a life list! Sometimes I get it confused with the “Stuff I want to buy” list and have to take stuff off. (“Owning the entire OPI Burlesque nail polish set “is not exactly life list worthy. That goes on my Lust List. Or my “buy when you get paid” list.)

    So here’s some of mine:

    - Take my mom to Greece
    - Successfully own a large fish tank. Bonus points for saltwater.
    - Take yearly Aggie football game trips
    - Start and regularly update my own blog.
    - Sew a dress.
    - Sew 50 Little Dresses for Africa (I’m about 8 in…)
    - Create and maintain an Etsy store
    - Start/support a good animal rescue group. (NOT the one where we got Maggie. They suck.)
    - Regularly (or at ALL) write “Yay for you guys!” letters to people who deserve it for a job well done.

    • Alyssa, I second you on getting my life list confused with my “I want it” list. :) Getting a fun, comfy armchair for the study is not life list worthy.

      Aaaaand, I love your “regularly write ‘Yay for you guys!’ letters” idea.

    • You are sewing 50 little dresses for AFRICA?? You are amazing! I’m so glad I asked! And you want to create and maintain an etsy shop? I’m seriously incredibly impressed. I will totally help you do this if you want/if I can. I’m not sure how you do that, but I’ve always been in awe of those people. You just knocked my socks off! Like … for reals.

      • They’re little pillowcase dresses, super easy to make because I really suck at sewing. http://www.littledressesforafrica.org/

        AND I totally want an Etsy shop, but I don’t have any idea on what I’d make. So I’m helping my mom try to get hers up. (She makes soy candles! )

        And I forgot to add “Be on NPR and/or This American Life.” (You’re helping me with this goal. Sarah Vowell, watch out!! :-) )

        • Alyssa, I am totally impressed about the dresses for Africa. I will have to think about doing that in the future, as I have just begin learning to sew. But I am totally not good enough for a dress of any kind yet. :)

  3. Hi! I started reading your blog from APW too. And I just started my life lift. (Although, I made one in 2004 and can’t for the life of me find it!!!) Anyway, it is here http://metamorprose.wordpress.com/life-list/
    It includes such things as traveling to Italy with my husband, also working to support other women, sewing things, photographing things, running, and mostly going on adventures.

    • I hate when I re-read something I posted and there is a typo! However, this particular typo (saying life lift and not life list) sort of has some poetry to it.

    • I love your list. My favorite was taking photographs of your grandmothers. That is fabulous and I cannot wait to see them! You know – I noticed that on your list you’d like to take a writer’s workshop. Wellll…. I could either help you find one or I could help tutor you one on one. I’ve been freelance editing for a few years and have my MFA and a teacher’s practicum. No pressure, but if you ever have time I could work one on one with you, giving you prompts, readings and help you finish a project you’re interested in. Food for thought. :)

  4. Hey CarMar- are you my secret twin? I just started working (at a law firm) in Sept too, and my boyfriend is in his 3rd year of medical school so we may or may not have to move in 2 years too!

    And lauren… i’ll start dropping little tid bits of life lists when you least expect it :)

    • Maris, too funny! Yes, the legal/medical combination is difficult. I’m torn because I’d like to go someplace new (preferably with mountains or water) for his residency, but I don’t want to have to take the bar again. Agh!

  5. Okay, here’s mine thus far (and it is always changing)

    1) Visit all 7 continents (3 down, 4 to go).
    2) Visit all 50 states (45 down, 5 to go)
    3) Go to the World Cup.
    4) Buy a house (and remodel it).
    5) Open my own restaurant
    6) Learn how to quilt
    7) Pay off my student loans
    8) Make jam every year like my grandma
    9) Help my other grandma finish her cookbook
    10) Someday have our golden lab
    11) Move back to seattle someday
    12) Learn how to sail
    13) Continue the annual picture taking tradition with my sisters for the rest of my life
    14) Collect early editions of all of the L. Frank Baum books
    15) Go on a girls’ vacation to a spa/beach resort

    • I love this!!! I cannot WAIT until we start receiving maris quilts for christmas. eeee!!

  6. I feel you on the boots. I have runner / biker calves, so I have a really hard time finding ones that fit me too.

    Ok, here some off mine.

    First one, actually physically write a life list. I have a pretty defined list in my head, but I know that writing it down has a lot of power.

    Get in a good running habit again. In fact, be back in Marathon shape in time to run the Montreal marathon again this year. Then run the NYC and Burlington, VT marathons.

    Go back to school.

    Go to Ibiza.

    Learn to cook.

  7. I haven’t thought much about life lists… I have lots of little mental “things I might do/learn” lists for different spans of time, but when I *do* get around to it, here are some things that would be on it:

    1. Travel outside the country – top of the list is Italy & New Zealand
    2. Start taking piano lessons again
    2a. Buy a piano
    2b. Live in a place that will accomodate a piano
    3. Start a small business – something wedding related
    4. Clean out my closet and donate everything I don’t wear.

    • Donate!!! I do it every christmas to make room for my new, uh, swag. ;) But Also I’ve paired down my belongings so much since moving into a tiny apartment with Kamel that I feel FREE! Do it for the holidays and then again and again and again. :)

  8. Love your life list, Lauren! Especially the one about supporting other women (just read that great post!). Alright, I’m constantly thinking about my future, so it’s about time that I write something down. Here’s a start:

    1. Finish grad school (hopefully I survive the next 6 months)
    2. Buy a house so I can finally decorate the way that I want to decorate
    3. Start my own business
    4. Make enough money where I can donate a good portion to the many organizations out there that I support
    5. Retire and travel
    6. Have enough confidence to do a full headstand in yoga

    • The yoga thing: props to you. I always opt out of attempting those and claim lady problems! When you finally do it – get some one to take a picture! That shit should go up in the living room. :)

  9. Hi Lauren :-) I also started following your blog via APW. I just got married in July, and it’s fun to follow your wedding planning now! Well, one of my Life List goals, like Alyssa, was to start and maintain my own blog, which I did about 6 weeks ago: militarywomenspeak.wordpress.com. I tell you that because I posted my Life List there, which is WAY too long to put in your comments. I was inspired by my friend Christina, who was inspired by Maggie at Mighty Girl, and now we’ve come full circle on Life List inspiration :-) Anyway, you’re welcome to check it out if you like! Just wanted to say I like your blog and your Life List, and it’s fun to follow your wedding planning. When you attend that feminist rally in DC, please let me know. That’s where we live, and I’d be happy to show you around and give you a true DC experience! Best of luck in your planning!

    • You attended a rally in DC??? Which one?!

      Also: Yay haircut! I’m planning on doing locks of love after my wedding and will probably get the shortest hair cut I’ve ever received. Eeps! Goodluck. :)

      • Yeah, I noticed we both had “attend rally in DC” as our #2 item! I went to the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear, put on by John Stewart and Comedy Central. It wasn’t a passionate political rally by any means, but it was cool to be on the Mall with 250,000 other people with signs, etc. Pretty neat experience! That was my first Life List accomplishment! And yes, the short haircut… I talked to my stylist about it, who said winter is not a good time for short hair (makes sense), so I think I’m going to take that plunge next summer. Scary! But I’ve always wanted to try it. Donating to Locks of Love is very cool, and a Life List type of item. Good luck to you too, with your List and with the wedding!

  10. I’m going to Spain in July (another choir trip), you should come too! :) I don’t have an actual life list, which could be part of why I am currently not motivated to do much more than switch between my room and the couch while watching tv. lol I guess discovering Netflix isn’t going to help things either ;)

    • hahahaha i would TOTALLY go to spain with you, but I’m getting married in July and that month is super booked up. Also – netflix is the devil… in such a good way.

  11. Well, if you’re going to mention a person by name, I guess she HAS to write her life list!

    -Run a marathon at 26. (26 miles for 26 years of living)
    -Write and publish a novel
    -Go to London
    -Pay off my student loans before I’m dead (I’m kind of exaggerating, ok kind of not)
    -Open my own counseling practice
    -Take my mom on a trip when she graduates college
    -Get a PhD
    -Learn how to legitimately right a bike
    -Give up facebook
    -Take advantage of my mom’s bad ass photography skills and learn how to take a respectable photo.
    -Go wine tasting
    -Buy a killer pair of riding boots
    -Move to another city and not feel guilty about it

    Gosh Lauren, I’m gonna really think about this the next few days and tackle what I really want to add. I’m in a negative space today because instead of giving myself the freedom to list everything I want, I’m holding back and thinking about why so many things are impossible…lots to munch on. :)

    • ahh ali! I’m so glad you posted! And don’t forget this is a LIFE list – not everything needs to or should be accomplished in the next 5 years. Otherwise, what happens when you’re 50? you’ll be goal-less, wandering the streets sweeping up other people’s trash! (probably not, but you know…)

      I would LOVE to take you wine tasting!! Kamel can drive us around napa, you can sleep in my living room and i’ll even take you out to dinner. :) Totally up to you – but maybe some time after the holidays? I’m totally game and would love to help you cross something off!

    • Ali, I felt the same way when writing mine! After reading others’ life lists, I realized I needed to aim bigger instead of thinking “well, that’s probably never going to happen anyways because (insert excuse here).”

  12. Okay. Confession time. I’ve been running from my life list for about a month now. I don’t know what it is about this list that makes me feel nervous and scared, but it’s pathetic. And so, here is my first attempt at a list. (I’m glad you’ve learned that the list can be altered as you go along, takes the pressure off…)

    1. Start a blog. Maintain it & write even on days when I’ve got nothing to say.
    2. Overcome my bad habbits (ie. letting fear paralyze me, thinking AFTER I speak, blaming myself for other people’s failures)
    3. Finish my BA & teaching credential before I turn 25.
    3a. Move back to San Francisco.
    4. Start saving money for down payment on a car &/or teeny tiny apartment.
    4a. Start saving money, period.
    5. Spend a Summer abroad with Edward Ryan.
    6. Own my own coffee shop/bakery.
    7. Fly in a hot air balloon in Napa.
    8. Go wine tasting.
    9. Take a roadtrip up PCH to the 101 through Oregon & up to Seattle.
    10. Have drinks at an exclusive super upscale bar.
    10a. Rock the damn place.
    11. Let go of the history between me and Gerardo.
    12. Start a family.
    12a. Feel prepared to start a family.
    13. Learn to take a decent photograph.
    14. Become a school Principal, run the happiest school in town. (note: happiest, not highest achieving.)
    15. Stop making excuses for my failures. Get over them. Move on.

    Okay, I wrote it. & so far, it feels pretty liberating :)
    Hold me to some of these, okay?

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I am a writer living in Seattle and I believe that life is a grand adventure and only boring if you believe it to be. Plus! You don't need money to have fun.

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