Owning It

Most of the time I am good about my writing schedule. I get the posts out about products, I get the book reviews post out (Though I’m totally behind schedule on that and was supposed to have one up today), I get myself to knock out weekending posts on sunday night, etc. I do it because if I let myself off the hook then nothing would ever get done. It’s the same with working out, it’s the same with cooking at home and making my lunch for work instead of buying it. Do it, do it, it’s important. Push through and just do it. *Nike Swoosh Inserted Here*

But then sometimes, every once in a while, I remember that this is my blog! My space goddamnit! And I don’t have to do the post I wrote down in my blog-writing-schedule if I don’t want to! I can skip a day! I can go to bed early and spend an extra hour playing with my kid and it’s ok.

This on the heels of that big post on choices and trying to fit it all in and be a writer and a worker and have family responsibilities, huh?

Oh well. There are things we can control and things we can’t. Sometimes we just have to own the ones we can and run with it.

What are you owning this Friday? What are you running with?


Product Review: California Naturel

Several weeks ago I was approached by California Naturel┬áto do a product review for them. I was very excited because I had been recently reading about their products, how they use natural and oraganic ingredients and use sustainable business practices. Plus they are based in Sausalito and it always thrills me to be able to pinpoint exactly where a company is because I’ve spent time there myself. Sausalito! I miss you! From my million product trials with Birchbox, you know I am always up for some experimentation and I am currently obsessed with face wash (I am no longer convinced of my regimen with Clinique), moisturizers, and...


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On Working

I’m back to talk to you about “having it all” again. This conversation is everywhere and I can’t escape it, especially when it keeps happening in my own head, especially when my ideas on this continue to evolve. It feels that recently, in my world, a lot of people (big and small, loud and quiet, public and private) are talking about working for yourself. The glory and freedom and happiness and relief of being your own boss, doing what you love, being a full time artist or living your art to make money, walking away from the structured job in an office and living the dream. I know a lot of wedding photographers, so...


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Weekend-ing: Family

This weekend was about visiting family but also being home in my little hermit shell. Last week felt incredibly long. I was slammed at work and needed more sleep than I got. So by Friday evening I was done. And Saturday I was even more done. Sometimes you have to throw your plans out the window and just lose the day. Sunday we visited my grandparents and then my parents. We had pie twice, my grandma’s homemade ravioli’s, explored their garden, and visited leisurely at my parent’s house. I went to bed early and slept a full 8 hours. I feel less frazzled now, more together and not as spread out all over the place. Thank god...


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Baptized Gabriel Esmay

Last month Gabe was baptized! And it was an incredibly moving, joyous, stressful, wonderful, family-filled experience. His godmothers did an amazing job and I think we all held our breath a little when the priest took him from me to douse his head in water. There was a pretty good chance Gabe could have swatted at him and then took off running. But that didn’t happen! We hired a photographer so it was one less thing I had to worry about day of. If you’re in the Seattle area check out Craig Larsen Photography. (Godmother Kathleen!) (Godmother...


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Year 3: Leather

People watching at fancy hotels is the best. Such a strange group of people. You realize that money doesn’t make you pretty and that humans are just humans, bathing suits and bellies and bottoms and tan lines and burn lines and hairy backs. And we all just want to get some sunshine, order a beer, and go for a swim. “Oh man! Look at that guy!” Kamel said, “He’s roasting! He looks like he’s smoked a thousand cigars. He looks like, he looks like…” The first thing that came to mind was the word “Tanning” …. but I didn’t mean it in the “lay out in the sun and get a...


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The Light Between Oceans: A Review

Since having a baby my ability to watch, read, hear things about kids has totally changed. Gabe may have saved me but he also broke me, too. That whole thing in the news right now about the guy who left his 3 year old to die in the car on a hot day? I can’t. I just can’t. I can’t even discuss it with Kamel without absolutely breaking down in tears. I can’t watch movies where there is a stressful child situation, I can barely tolerate Game of Thrones when babies are involved. It’s just something about knowing, really knowing what a newborn sounds like, feels like, how helpless they are. Seeing Gabe’s face...


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Who the hell is she?


I am a writer living in Seattle and I believe that life is a grand adventure and only boring if you believe it to be. Plus! You don't need money to have fun.

I live with my husband, a photographer by education and a maker-of-video-games by trade, and a baby named gabe in an apartment on the hill.

I am romantic about most things and I cry... about almost anything. I tell stories to entertain you, I spread stories to keep you in the loop. I am not a grammar freak, but I do know how to spell it. I am exceedingly proud of my scrambled eggs and I really could eat an entire pan of cupcakes. If I met me, I would be my best friend. I tend to be irreverent.

If you would like to chat with me or see what else I'm up to you can follow me on Twitter (betterinrealife), on facebook, or email me at betterinrealife at gmail.